Q: How does one process negative experiences that drag you down into something one can learn from. i often feel i make little progress when a setback in life throws me into a negative tail spin quite easily and i end up feeling frustrated with my inability to rise above the negative. — Merton A.
A: Ohhhh yes. I understand this question deeply and personally.
My ultimate theory is that there should be no judgment on the bad, because in the grand scheme of things it is as good as the good — we just experience it differently in our body and our energy. To experience the bad as good, one has to endeavor first to remain in connection to/with Spirit, which is the Source of all contentment. This may seem like a platitude, but it is actually true and real in application, and can be achieved through the Discipline of Bliss.
What is the Discipline of Bliss? It is the spiritual idea that requires that we do not focus on the mundane or negative things in our life, but rather on bringing the higher energies into our life, in order to then CHANGE our life. This requires that we begin now identifying those things that bring us real happiness and contentment….joy. BLISS. And they don’t have to be hugely spectacular things. They can be as simple as gardening, singing, hikes, etc.
To start, make a short list of at least ten things that make you TRULY feel happy in your heart of hearts — and keep that list posted where you can see it. Then, starting immediately — DO THOSE THINGS MORE. Every day, do at least one of those things, and if you can, more if not all of those things. No matter what, do those things. That discipline is as important as prayer and meditation, in my opinion.
Why so important? Because like all things, it comes down to energy. The literal energetic signature of our joy is a byproduct of our tapping into Source energy. In other words, when we feel joy, we are literally accessing the divine. Further, when we allow ourselves to remain in that energy — the energy of bliss — we allow that energy to grow. The energy is a replicative one, and what I mean by that is that it will actually draw back to it more energy just like it, presenting within our lives as new conditions and circumstances, thereby growing more energy. Therefore, the more we put ourselves into the energy of joy, the more we will experience joyful circumstances.
Remember, any time our human energy comes into contact with elevated or divine energy, our energetic signature changes. This is guaranteed. The dominant energetic signature ALWAYS modifies the lesser, causing the lesser to rise or adjust to the stronger signature. Divine energy is the most dominant energy available to us. So, it stands to reason that if we immerse ourselves in the higher energies (by being in joy as often as possible) we also change ourselves — not just our perceptions (which would allow you to see the bad as good), but also the very conditions of our life — the people we meet, the food we eat, our fortunes, our insights, our health, our abundance — all of it.
Mainly, at least for the purposes of answering your question, remaining in the higher energies will allow us to access the wellspring of higher understanding. God’s perception of our troubles is far different than our own, as we stand here in them. To access God’s (or Spirit’s) perception is to almost immediately change your own.
That is the answer.