(Some portions of this letter have been edited or removed for purposes of privacy.)
“My whole life I have been feeling the other side. I’ll go someplace, and if there is any kind of spirit there, I always get a “Hey, I’m here! And you can feel me!” I have had many countless times in my life that they come to me and communicate with me.
I moved into my house 2 yrs ago, and right away, I was rushed with an adult male. He is here, all the time, it is almost like he is living here, but he has no physical body to see. … He died of [—], but I have learned that he prepared for his (Crossing Over?) way in advance. I have been given gifts by him, handmade rings, a small box that was full of rough cut diamonds, huge opal, moon stone, and tigers eye. … I have found his books here over time, all of them about Reincarnation and Immortality. He has long hand written notes about free will and the immortal soul.
…He is not the only one around me. The other is a woman who is missing from very bad events. I actually got involved on accident, but was pulled to the area of her remains, and I have found [some evidence]. I have [this evidence] still, she does come to me, but I think I am failing her in some lack of fine tuning [of] whatever this is inside of me. … I am within 100 ft of her [remains]. It is on private property and the police can not get a warrant with out something solid. I sneak in and out of there, I know she is right there…
What am I??? And please tell me, Where do I begin???? Please could you tell me, and I don’t know why, but I feel like it is very strong what ever this “GIFT” is that I was born with. I do have [children]; all of [them ] are full of what I have in me, and they all seem to be a little different in ability. I want to nurture them.” — F. M.
Well, F.M., this is all very interesting. I’ll try to give you as much information as possible, while asking a question or two of my own, as I am fascinated.
What are you?
Most importantly, you are asking what you are. I assume because you referenced your “gift” that you know by this point that you are psychic. The reality is that we are all psychic, though some, like you, have a much deeper connection to their abilities. You are able to access them much more freely and manifest different phenomena simply by allowing yourself to be who you are. This is wonderful and I want you to develop this further.
You are not simply psychic, however. In fact you are most certainly a psychic medium. Psychic mediums are able to interact with the dead as well as many other levels of the Spirit world. Some famous psychic mediums are John Edward, Maryann Winkowski, Lisa Williams, James van Praagh, Theresa Caputo and Hans Christian King.
Psychics tend to possess the basic “clairs”, that is, clairvoyance, clairaudience, clairsentience and so on. You however possess some or all of these clairs, but additionally you have the mediumistic abilities to communicate with the dead. Many believe that all mediums are psychic, but that not all psychics are mediums. I believe this is true, as well.
Before talking about your abilities and how to develop them within yourself and your children, let’s talk about other parts of your letter.
Dealing With A “Good” Ghost
First, the male ghost in your house. I would say that based on your description he is likely benevolent and is in fact interested in having you develop your abilities further. This is why he is leading you to books or letters around the home on various types of enlightened topics. He is correct to do this; in order to expand in your abilities you will need to commit yourself to various types of study and/or discipline. (I will address this further at the end of my answer.) He is also presenting himself to your children, and according to your letter they seem to be having a favorable and/or neutral response to him. He seems helpful and the type of “ghost” a lot of people would love to have in their home. The reality is, though, that there will always be ghosts in your homes. Because you are a medium, and discarnate spirits will always recognize this.
With regard to your relationship with this man in spirit, I would say proceed with an open mind. I would like to remind you and everyone else, however, that you (and your family) are always in charge of your own space. If there comes a time when his visits are intrusive or if they are keeping you up at night and/or disturbing you, you simply need to erect boundaries and strictly enforce them. Which leads to my first question: Have you honed the ability to “turn off” your psychic receiver yet? In other words, can you open yourself up to the Spirit world but at the same time close yourself off when you do not want to be disturbed? Please let me know. If you have not learned to do this yet, I will help.
Another question: you mentioned receiving gifts from this male spirit. How so? Did he lead you to these gifts or did they materialize from out of nowhere? Many people will think the idea of spontaneous materialization is a bunch of rubbish, but that is hardly the truth. The Society for Psychical Research has documented case after case where this has not only been claimed but has been sufficiently proven, as well. For interesting reading involving spirit communication with materializations, I recommend researching The Scole Experiment. It is a fascinating, well documented and highly examined example of this sort of thing.
Your male ghost appears to be a friend, and this is good. This relationship may change as time passes; he may begin to facilitate more experiences for you, or he may simply impart what he wishes and then leave. No matter what, always send this spirit love and always maintain as high a vibration in your body and home as is possible. Doing these things will insure your interaction with the Spirit world is edifying, enlightening and rewarding.
Dealing With A Traumatized Ghost
Now, about the missing woman who has reached out to you. This isn’t uncommon; this happens to my own child from time to time. A ghost will perceive what I call her “peculiar light” and reach out to make contact. This can be startling, as often the ghost will present his or herself as they were at the time of their death, which can be gruesome. My child has learned that when they appear she should not be afraid, as she is in charge of her own space and her own psychic receiver. Being trained away from fear, she now simply asks them what it is they need, and how she might help. She will usually tell me about these spirits and I will then advise them that they have a certain period of time to get their message across, but then they must leave. I don’t want my child harassed by wandering spirits, as you can imagine. However, my child is of the age now that she can direct the spirits on her own and interact with them on whatever level she sees fit, as long as it is healthy and there are boundaries. This is what I advise for you and your children, as well.
When a traumatized spirit presents to you, help him or her if you wish. You clearly do wish this, as you are getting involved in this woman’s case on your own time. I am glad you have informed the police and have provided them with the location as well as this new evidence. However, I do not recommend secretively stealing away to the location of this woman’s remains as it is somewhat common for perpetrators to return to their victim’s burial or disposal site. The last thing I would want is to have you in any danger. I know you will proceed as you see fit, but please be careful.
There are also other things you can do. Like so many psychic mediums who work for the police and the families of missing persons, you can direct your psychic abilities to this missing woman more proactively to open up broader contact. When you have done this you can ask her specific questions, for example the name of the person who caused her harm and a physical description. Ask the spirit where the murder was committed and how it was committed. Gather whatever information you can and provide it to the police. A word of caution here as well, however: many times the psychic informer becomes a person of interest to the detectives investigating the case. This is happening less and less as psychic phenomena is more greatly accepted and appreciated, but please know your risks when working with the police. Maryann Winkowski, who I mentioned above and who has worked quite extensively with the police, would be a good person to research and at some point, perhaps even emulate.
Always Include Your Guides/Angels/Friends in Spirit
With regard to both spirits, here’s what I recommend most of all: strengthen your interaction with your personal spirit guides and various other friends in Spirit. These guides and friends will help protect you and ground your sessions with discarnate entities. Additionally, a psychic medium like you would do well to draw or identify a gatekeeper spirit, or something called a “spirit control”. A gatekeeper spirit is essentially a spirit who runs interference between you and the Spirit world, such as Arthur Ford’s spirit control Fletcher or Edgar Cayce’s sometimes intermediary, Michael. I envision these facilitator spirits as holding out a lamplight so that we can see into the world of Spirit more clearly. They will also organize and moderate the spirits who are coming to you for help. The gatekeeper spirit can bring the right ones to you at the right time, and one at a time, so as not to overwhelm you. To find out if you have a gatekeeper spirit, simply ask your spirit guides to present him or her to you. They typically will do this for you. (I will be writing a post about how to more intimately work with your spirit guides; please look for that coming up.)
Protecting Yourself When Working With Discarnate Spirits
F.M., you need to be practicing psychic protection if you are not already. This involves creating an energetic shield or bubble of sorts around you as you do your work or really, as you live your life, day to day. Nothing negative is allowed through that shield or bubble; only positive information can travel both ways. For more information on psychic protection, check out this link. For a free .pdf of the classic book Psychic Self Defense by Dion Fortune, click here.
To start, however, I would suggest some sort of talisman or amulet. This can be something as simple as a crystal gemstone or a medallion depicting your favorite angel or saint. When you’ve identified this amulet make sure to touch it a lot; we transfer energy when we touch things, as well as allow energy to be transferred to us. The more you touch and interact with you amulet as you pray, do spiritual work and ask for protection and guidance, the more effective it will be.
Developing Your Psychic Abilities
The first thing to do in order to develop your abilities is to meditate. This is absolutely cardinal rule number one for anyone wanting to develop spiritually. People who think they have no psychic abilities whatsoever will suddenly manifest them after taking up a meditation practice. If you are not meditating every day, you need to be.
Next, you must develop certain spiritual disciplines. Spiritual disciplines are simply rituals or routines that put you into direct contact with the world of Spirit. These disciplines are unique to everybody so you must discover and develop them yourself. For me, getting out into nature is extremely spiritually restorative and stimulative. Also I do something called toning, which involves singing and toning along to specific chords and frequencies in order to bring my energetic bodies into balance. Prayer is another form of spiritual discipline. You will have to discover for yourself which activities “click you into alignment” with Spirit; I suggest making a list of these things and then dedicating yourself to doing them regularly, no matter what.
Last, you must study. I would suggest starting with some of the classics, such as works by and on Edgar Cayce, who was quite possibly the most ethical and outstanding psychic in American history. Additionally, all works by author Colin Wilson and D. Scott Rogo are recommended; these men are and were tremendous researchers and present a plethora of information and documented evidence that will help you become acquainted with general metaphysics. In particular I like Wilson’s book The Occult and Rogo’s book Leaving The Body. Books on the mediums Emmanuel Swedenborg and William Stainton Moses (for example, Moses’ Spirit Teachings) might be of interest to you. Both men were highly regarded in the fields of both science and religion before spontaneously developing mediumistic abilities. Their stories are fascinating and relatable for both mediums and devotees of the paranormal alike.
Spiritual classics such as Autobiography of a Yogi, Kundalini, and various books by Osho will help you learn more about meditation and why it is so critical to the development of our abilities. Additionally, CDs put out by Hemi-Sync incorporate binaural beats and brain entrainment technology, making them particularly potent when used in meditation. I also happen to personally respond to the music/work of Jonathan Goldman, and would recommend that you look into him.
The book What Dreams May Come is one of my absolute favorites. While fictional, it is a fairly sound depiction of the after-world from the perspective of the dead protagonist. Beautiful and hauntingly written, I recommend this book to nearly everyone interested in “the other side”. Again, the book…not the movie.
Other general metaphysical classics worth exploring:
- Creative Visualization — Shakti Gawain
- Story of Edgar Cayce: There is a River — Thomas Sugrue
- The Book On Mediums — Allan Kardec
- Diary of a Psychic — Sonia Choquette
- Life After Life — Raymond Moody
- Your Immortal Body Of Light — Mitchell Earl Gibson
- Astral Dynamics — Robert Bruce
- Journeys Out Of The Body — Robert Monroe
- Mysteries — Colin Wilson
- Talking to Heaven: A Medium’s Message Of Life After Death — James van Praagh
- The Scole Experiment: Scientific Evidence Of Life After Death — Grant Solomon
- Many Lives, Many Masters — Brian Weiss
- So You Want To Be A Medium? — Rose Vanden Eynden
- Journey Of Souls — Michael Newton
- The Holographic Universe — Michael Talbot
- Opening To Channel — Sonaya Roman
This is just a short list of study material. I suspect if you pick up at least a handful of these books and read them you will soon set off on your own unique path of study. The key here is an open mind and the intention to learn and expand. With this, you are primed to grow!
For more information on general spiritual development, I also recommend some of my other articles from this site:
- How To Achieve Dynamic Meditation
- Tips To Help With Channeling
- Inner Work, Manifestation and Momentum
- Senior In Your Space
- Body In Support Of Spirit
- Physical Symptoms Of Channeling
Raising Psychic Kids
Last, I want to address the matter of your children.
Please know that all people close to the event of birth or death are more able to perceive the celestial realms. Children have just come from “the other side” and are therefore far more familiar and comfortable with it than most adults. It is extremely common for children to see spirits, have dreams, talk to light beings and even talk to themselves. The younger they are the more normal it is to them.
My best advice on raising a psychic child is twofold: first, let them believe and second, keep them healthy.
When I say let them believe I mean that it is imperative that parents stop telling their children that their abilities are acts of imagination or worse yet, stupid or evil. Kids need to know that their ability to perceive and interact with the world of Spirit is entirely normal and should in fact be encouraged and protected. They are not crazy, silly or delusional. What they are is clicked into alignment, which is something we should all want to be. And so support your kids, tell them that you believe them and ask them to tell you what is happening to them. If they are afraid, comfort them and practice psychic protection with them. If they are excited, hear them out. In short, let them believe!
Second, keep your children healthy. Not just physically healthy but spiritually, too.
The pineal gland is called the seat of the soul and it is everyone’s psychic center. It is a small pine cone shaped gland located in the center of the head, or more specifically within the vertebrate brain. When the pineal gland is healthy we are more easily able to move through the Spirit world and receive divine inspiration. When it is unhealthy our “main line” to the other side is virtually cut off. Did you know that as children (up until the age of 18) we all had healthy pineal glands, but by the age of 40 they are nearly dead? Calcified, toxic and hardened, by 40 the literal energetic life force is depleted from this gland. This is bad. This can also be reversed.
The pineal gland slowly dies over our 20s and 30s due to our way of life as well as the chemicals we are subject to without even knowing it. Fluroride in water, aluminum in deodorant, heavy metals and pesticides. The list goes on and on. As a parent to psychic children you must make it your priority to go completely clean and organic within your own home, to rid your spaces and bodies of chemicals and to only ingest those things that are nurturing and edifying for the body. In this day and age that’s a tall order indeed, but the more you do this the more you and your children will thrive spiritually. For your children, it will mean they will have healthier pineal glands longer, which will strengthen their spiritual connection.
Additionally, it’s never too young to teach your children how to meditate. If only every parent could engender in their children the ability to quiet their mind and be peaceful! The world would be such a better place. I had my own child learn a specific martial art which taught this to her and helped her streamline her energy. There are also books and DVDs that will help teach your child this invaluable spiritual tool.
I hope this has helped you. Please contact me if you have any other questions or concerns. I will definitely do what I can to help.
Most of all, F.M., know that you are all right. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you in the least. You are not weird or different or strange. In fact many people would quickly give up a great deal just to have a portion of the abilities you possess. Your goal now is to develop and refine these abilities so that you can be of service not only to yourself, but to others. And that is the nature and purpose of all spiritual gifts: to allow us to act as a conduit for the higher good and to live a life of service and love. That is the reason we are all here.
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